Intro
In today’s world, All of us struggle with something that nobody else can solve for us, and its something that everyone has suffered from since the beginning of time. Our mind has proven to be our greatest companion and our most formidable foe. Since it has been such a challenge, we’ve always tried to find ways to remedy our internal struggles. In recent years (in terms of overall Human History) We’ve discovered that coping mechanisms such as overworking, drinking, smoking, being hard on yourself, and many more ways of dealing with life are damaging to yourself as well as your relationships. Oddly enough, life really only starts to get better once you start having a positive mindset. A positive mindset is created from a variety of tools that need only be carried inside your cranium.
"The hardest mountain we climb is the one within"
The fuel to my relentless pursuit of a better life has been the unwavering belief in following my passions. But let me tell you, the journey wasn’t all smooth sailing. Negativity, whether it came from within or from external sources, used to cast a shadow over my dreams, leading to a series of misguided decisions and actions that ultimately led nowhere. So, let’s embark on a journey together, as I share a great tool on how to overcome the shackles of negativity, and carve your own path to a fulfilling life. Trust me, the view from here is breathtaking and worth every step of the climb.
The Toxicity of “I Can’t”
The Power of “How Can I?”
Going from “I can’t” to the liberating optimism of “How can I?,” is a shift is simple in linguistic terms but the reverberations within the mind are nothing short of of monumental. It’s akin to replacing the padlocked doors of impossibility with windows through which the light of ingenuity and determination can stream in. The “Can Method” breathes life into aspirations and dreams, opening the doors to innovation and creativity that were once concealed behind the iron curtains of negativity. The principle is simple but I’ll admit it’s difficult to shift your mindset so suddenly while having the expectation of changing into the embodiment of positivity in a matter of days. This is more of a lifestyle change than anything so you need to give it plenty of time to soak in and have patience with yourself. Set up reminders in your frequently visited areas, online and offline.
Now, let me be crystal clear here: the “Can Method” isn’t about ignoring the harsh realities of life or pretending that existence is all sunshine and rainbows. It’s about acknowledging those difficulties, staring them down with unyielding determination, and harnessing the inner strength within you to surmount them. It’s about recognizing that life is a fierce journey for everyone, filled with obstacles, but that doesn’t mean you’re destined to languish in the shadows of “I can’t.”
The deep negative feelings that you don’t label are a major contributor to believing that you can’t achieve the goals you set for yourself. Here are some of the reasons you may believe you can’t
The weight of expectation
The Fear of Failure or Rejection
Fear of failure and rejection can paralyze you, preventing you from taking risks or pursuing your goals. This fear often originates from past experiences of disappointment or criticism. By reframing failure as a valuable learning experience rather than an end to a situation. We begin to shape ourselves as if made of marble instead of shattering ourselves like glass. Understand that fear comes from what you think. Not what the situation is. The best thing you can do is sit down with a situation. look at it from as many angles as possible, and judge it based on a couple questions. Is it actually dangerous/has proper risk management been taken? Will this impact my future negatively? Your situation could end up hurting your ego. A bruised ego is humbling and transformative in my opinion, however, I would not say so during the process.
Lack of Self Compassion
one of my greatest banes is a lack of self compassion and being overly critical of myself when its not needed. This self-criticism can create a pervasive sense of inadequacy, making it difficult to believe in your own abilities. Practice being kinder to yourself because out of everyone in the world, you’re the only you. You are capable of loving those around you and you’re worth loving just as much. Gentleness works with everyone so why is it any different with your inner voices?
